Shine Bright! How to Stop Playing Small and Start Living Big

by Christine Kane

At some point on the path of almost every one of my coaching clients, there is a moment of clarity. Out of nowhere, there is a glimpse of what's possible. She sees so clearly how SMALL she has been thinking. The walls of the tiny box where she has confined herself are now crushing her. 

It is liberating. But also frightening. The question arises: Can I become this big? Will I let myself do that? 

In other words… 

I think I'm ready to let go of these old limitations. I think it's time to quit worrying about the opinions of others. I know I can really stop playing small. Am I up for it?! 

It can take your breath away when you reach this moment of discovery. And it has no choice but to change the entire game. 

So, I invite you to welcome this kind of bigness into your life! 

It's two months into this new year. Take some time to re-ignite, re-inspire, and re-invigorate your visions and dreams. Here are five steps to help you stop playing small and start living BIG. 

1 - Mind your Mind 

Your thoughts are things. They can be powerful tools, or devastating weapons. 

It's not always easy or quick to clean up years of negativity. AND the truth is you are the only one who can begin to do just that. If you're constantly berating yourself, doubting yourself, obsessing about the opinions of others, then set your intention to turn that around. 

Listen to upbeat audiobooks in your car. Post affirmations in spots where you'll see them throughout the day. Start a gratitude journal.

Remind yourself: "Energy flows where attention goes," and place your attention on gratitude, love, and joy. Be relentless! You can't afford the luxury of a negative thought! 

2 - Take Action 

Long ago, when I was trying to get confident enough to do my first open-mic night, I chickened out three different times, walking out of the venues without performing. I was waiting for self-esteem to appear. 

It never appeared. But finally, with a shaky voice, I did my first open-mic night anyway. What I discovered was this:

Self-esteem shows up BECAUSE you take action. Not before! 

Here's a mantra for you: "Create! Don't wait!" 

What one action-step can you take toward your dream today? 

3 - Radiate Success 

Do you whine and complain to anyone who will listen? Do you tell your sad story to get people to feel sorry for you and give you a break? Do you see yourself as a victim who can't CREATE outcomes, so you try to manipulate outcomes?

Living big means that you radiate success. 

Stop posting to Facebook or Twitter about how miserable you are. Don't share how bad things are at the office with your clients. Refrain from whining to the gallery visitor about how the economy is terrible for artists! (Save that stuff for your coach if you need to get it out of your system.)

Remember this: Like attracts like. When you radiate success, then success is drawn to you. 

4 - Regularly Exit your Comfort Zone 

"If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always got!" 

This is one of my favorite expressions. Cuz it's true! 

I've worked with hundreds of people as a mentor, a coach, a leader of retreats. The ones who write me emails about how their lives have changed are always the ones who are willing to exit their comfort zones. They try new things. They let themselves get scared. They say yes to new opportunities. They take time to go within and ask themselves what they want next and how they can create it. (Rather than staying on auto-pilot.)

People who live big have one thing in common: They learn to get comfortable being uncomfortable!

5 - Surround Yourself with Support 

I hired my first coach ten years ago. I paid him more per month than my mortgage at the time! I've since been a part of many coaching groups and masterminds - continuing to invest in this model of massive support. I swear by it! 

That's because we need to surround ourselves with encouraging believers who see through our limiting beliefs to the huge powerful souls that we are. Many people work and socialize in toxic environments. If this is you, then you might need to step out of your comfort zone and actively seek out positive people who want to create and attract their dreams. Find those who want to live big like you!

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